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Friendship 友谊

Unit 2

my friends; however, I had not realized the situation until then.

v.): gradually become less and less or smaller and smaller

dwindle (e.g. (1) Females become rare, causing fewer young dinosaurs to be born and species to dwindle to extinction. (2) His money dwindled away to nothing while traveling in Europe.

4. So I resolved to acquire new friends—women like me who had kids and enjoyed

rolling their eyes at the world a little bit just as I did. (Para. 4): So I made up my mind

to make more new friends. I am looking for women who are the same type as me: women with children and still interested in the outside world.

5. The downside, of course, was that I felt pretty intimidated. (Para. 4): The disadvan-

tage of making new friends in midlife was that I was rather frightened.

downside (n.): the negative part or disadvantage of sth.

e.g. The downside of owning your own business is working very long hours.

intimidate (v.): frighten sb. by behaving in a threatening way, esp. in order to make them

do what you want

e.g. (1) Large audiences don’t intimidate him.

(2) Managers sometimes raise their voice and pound the table to see if they can intimidate the other party into making further concessions.

6. Your college roommate becomes your best pal at least partly due to proximity. (Para. 5):

Because you and your roommate live in the same room, both of you have more chances to

interact. The nearness in space partly contributes to the result that your college roommate can become your best friend.

(n.): nearness in distance or time

proximitye.g. (1) My proximity to your office adds flexibility. (2) We chose the house for its proximity to the school.

7. “There are many people I?m comfortable around, but I wouldn?t go so far as to call them

friends. Comfort isn?t enough to sustain a real friendship,” Danzig says. (Para. 5): ―Though

I may feel comfortable to be together with some people, I don‘t think I will consider comfort so important as to call them my friends because for a real friendship there are more vital factors besides comfort.‖ Danzig says.

go so far as to

: behave in a way that seems surprising

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e.g. (1) She wouldn’t go so far as to refuse to attend school.

(2) Personally, I wouldn’t go so far as to say that Tom can take the place of John.

8. If someone didn?t take me up on my offer, so what: I wasn?t in junior high, when

I might have been rejected for having the wrong clothes or hair. At my age I have

amassed enough self-esteem to realize that I have plenty to offer. (Para. 7): If my offer of being friends is rejected by someone, I will not be uneasy. I have passed the immature period as in junior high school when some unimportant elements, such as wrong clothes or hair, are taken into consideration at the time friendship is forged. In midlife my accumulated self-esteem allows me to understand that I have many attractive personal qualities to find friends.

take up: become interested in (a particular activity or subject) and spend time doing (it)

e.g. (1) I take you up on your invitation to the party.

(2) Okay. You want to take up the subject of the friendship, don’t you? (v.): gradually collect (a large amount of money, knowledge, or information)

amasse.g. (1) People tend to amass possessions, sometimes without being aware of doing so. (2) Scientists are continuing to amass data concerning the effects of toxic pollutants.

9. One woman I met at a friend?s shower didn?t keep up our connection, even though

we?d clicked instantly. But because there have been times when I?ve failed to

follow through with women I?ve liked very much, I knew that her busyness was the likely explanation. (Para. 7): I met one woman at a friend‘s shower and we liked and understood each other immediately, however, we did not have frequent contact. I will not attribute the lack of connection to my personal reasons because I had the similar experience before: I failed to maintain friendship with women I liked. So I would like to think that busy schedule was the possible reason.

): like and understand each other.

click (v.e.g. We just clicked from the moment we started working together.

follow through: do what needs to be done to complete sth. or make it successful

e.g. (1) Richard is determined to follow his plan through.

(2) The committee decided that all the members should follow through the passed plan without deviation.

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Friendship 友谊

Unit 2 10. “In high school I chose friends based on their popularity and how being part of their circle

might reflect on me. Now it?s our shared values and activities that count.” (Para. 8): ―In high

school I would like to choose those who were popular among students as my friends and those by joining them I might enjoy the influence of the circle. However, now the shared values and activities are the key factors when I choose a friend.

11. Happily, as awkward as making new friends can be, self-esteem issues do not factor

in — or if they do, you can easily put them into perspective. (Para. 9): Although the process of making new friends can be an embarrassing one, it is relieved to realize that self-esteem is not one of the causes for the embarrassment. If it really becomes a problem during the process, we should consider it rationally.

: include sth. as a relevant element when making a calculation or decision

factor in/intoe.g. I know it is not the cheapest on the market. But if you take the quality factor into consideration, you will find your company will benefit in the long term.

put into perspective: consider rationally

e.g. Put problems in perspective: sometimes we worry about things that never happen.

12. In the end there was no chemistry between them, so they didn?t become good pals.

(Para. 9): In the end because there was no strong personal attraction for each other, they

didn‘t become good friends.

(n.): the interaction of one personality with another

chemistrye.g. The chemistry between the boy and girl was obvious.

13. What midlife friendship is about, it seems, is reflecting the person you?ve become

(or are still becoming) back at yourself, thus reinforcing the progress you?ve made

in your life. (Para.9): Midlife friendship serves as a mirror, showing your image or the image you are setting up. It helps you to know better of yourself and make your achievement more prominent.

14. “New friends know me as a more accomplished person,” says Katzman. “They

see me as confident. An old chum has the goods on you. With recently made friends, you can turn over a new leaf.” (Para.10): ―New friends met me when I was a more successful person in career or family life,‖ says Katzman. ―They regard me as a person full of confidence. An old friend knows your history, including your awkward

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moments, however, for new friends, you can impress them with your changed, better image.

have the goods on sb.: have or find proof that sb. is guilty of a crime

e.g. He dare not do anything harmful any more. We have the goods on him.

turn over a new leaf: decide to change the way you behave and become a better person

e.g. They decided to give him a last opportunity to turn over a new leaf.

15. In addition to liking and respecting Julia, Dershowitz had a feeling that the fit and

athletic younger woman would help her to get in shape. (Para. 11): Dershowitz liked

and respected Julia. Besides, she also felt that her friendship with Julia, who is healthy and strong, would help her in forming a way of life.

16. “She brings out my motivation and I really like that. She?s strong and successful, and

she helps me emphasize those things in myself.” (Para. 11): ―She encourages me to set

goals for my life and I really like that. She‘s determined and successful, and she helps me discover my good qualities so as to develop them.‖

): eagerness and willingness (to do sth.)

motivation (n.e.g. One reason for their failure in the examination is that they lack the motivation to study.

17. She makes the parts of motherhood I found overwhelming seem not only possible but

easy, even fun. (Para. 12): As to me, some duties for a woman as a mother sometimes seem too difficult to fulfill, however, she not only can fulfill the duties, but also can fulfill them in an easy way, or even make them fun.

overwhelming (a.): large enough in size, number, or amount to be very impressive or have

a strong effect

e.g. The bill was adopted by an overwhelming majority.

18. No one is perfect, so work around her quirks — she?s chronically late, or she?s a bit

negative — to cut down on frustration and fights. (Para. 15): No one is perfect, so

tolerate with your friend‘s shortcomings, such as being late now and then, or her negative attitude. In doing so, you may reduce your dissatisfaction and make progress.

quirk (n.): a strange habit or feature

e.g. (1) By a quirk of fate they have booked into the same hotel. (2) He has a strange quirk of addressing his wife as Mrs. Smith.

Friendship 友谊

Unit 2 Part II Key to Exercises

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Ⅰ. Post-reading Activities

Text Comprehension

1. There was nothing wrong with her family, health and career. However, she found herself feeling vaguely down and in need of a friend who could comfort her. Then she found that she had no friend to call and confide in. . When she dialed her best friend who lives in California and only got her voice mail, she first realized her lonesomeness. . When one is young, one is more or less friends with everyone unless there is a reason not to be. When one is in midlife, to start a new relationship may make one feel self- conscious. . When one is young, one chooses friends based on their popularity and how being part of their circle might reflect on oneself. When one is in midlife, one tends to choose friends with shared values and activities. . One can turn over a new leaf with new friends as one tends to be a more accomplished person when new friends know him. . ―What‘s Missing‖ here refers to the qualities possessed by a new friend, something one