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the first time on graduation day. Of all subjects on this planet, I think they would have been hard put to name one less useful than Greek mythology when it came to securing the keys to an executive bathroom. 对于一个已经42岁的妇人来说，回顾21岁毕业典礼的时刻并不是一件十分舒服的事情。在前半生中我一直奋力挣扎，为了在自己的雄心壮志与亲人对我的期盼之间取得一个平衡。

我自己认定今生唯一想做的事情就是写小说。然而，我的出身贫寒、从未受过大学教育的父母却认为，我那过于活跃的想象力只不过是个人的怪癖而已，永远也不能帮我偿还贷款，也不能帮我弄到养老金。

他们希望我取得一个职业技能学位;而我却向往在英国文学方面深造。最后我们互有妥协并达成一致，让我去学习现代语言;而事后想来，这份妥协其实没有让任何一方满意。于是，没等父母的车绕过路尽头的拐角从视野里消失，我就丢下了德语，转而沿着古典文学的道路快步走下去。 我记不得是否有告诉父母我其实在学习古典文学;他们也可能在出席毕业典礼的时候终于觉察了事实真相。在地球上所有的学科当中，当涉及到“获得使用正式员工专用洗手间的权利”的时候，我估计他们很难想到比希腊神话更没用的学科了。

I would like to make it clear, in parenthesis, that I do not blame my parents for their point of view. There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you. What is more, I cannot criticise my parents for hoping that I would never experience poverty. They had been poor themselves, and I have since been poor, and I quite agree with them that it is not an ennobling experience. Poverty entails fear, and stress, and sometimes depression; it means a thousand petty humiliations and hardships. Climbing out of poverty by your own efforts, that is indeed something on which to pride yourself, but poverty itself is romanticised only by fools. 顺便提一句，我必须声明自己并没有为父母的观点而责怪他们的意思。你不能总是责怪父母指错了方向;当你长大成人、可以独立掌舵的时候，这份责任就应该由你独立承担了。况且，父母希望我永远都不要经受贫穷，而我不能谴责这一期望。他们自己饱受贫寒之苦，而我也曾经是个穷人，我十分赞同他们的想法——贫穷决不是什么高贵的经历。伴随贫穷而来的是恐惧和紧张，有时还会陷入忧伤沮丧之中;这些都意味着无尽的卑微和艰难。凭借自己的力量挣脱贫困

境地，这的确是值得自豪的事情，但是只有愚蠢的人才会一厢情愿的为贫穷本身涂抹浪漫的色彩

What I feared most for myself at your age was not poverty, but failure.

At your age, in spite of a distinct lack of motivation at university, where I had spent far too long in the coffee bar writing stories, and far too little time at lectures, I had a knack for passing examinations, and that, for years, had been the measure of success in my life and that of my peers.

I am not dull enough to suppose that because you are young, gifted and well-educated, you have never known hardship or heartbreak. Talent and intelligence never yet inoculated anyone against the caprice of the Fates, and I do not for a moment suppose that everyone here has enjoyed an existence of unruffled privilege and contentment.

当我像你们这么大的时候，我最害怕的甚至还不是贫穷，而是失败。

当我像你们这么大的时候，我对大学里的课程没什么动力，总是在咖啡馆里花上大把的时间写小说，而用于听课的时间则寥寥无几。尽管如此，我却有些让自己能通过考试的

窍门;而考试，在若干年中，就成了衡量我和我同龄人的成败的标准。

我不会笨到认为你们这些年轻、有天赋、受过良好教育的孩子就从来不知道困难和心碎的滋味。天赋和智力并不能让人免受命运的捉弄;我也从不认为在这里的所有人都享有不可破坏的特权与满足。

However, the fact that you are graduating from Harvard suggests that you are not very well-acquainted with failure. You might be driven by a fear of failure quite as much as a desire for success. Indeed, your conception of failure might not be too far from the average person's idea of success, so high have you already flown academically

Ultimately, we all have to decide for ourselves what constitutes failure, but the world is quite eager to give you a set of criteria if you let it. So I think it fair to say that by any conventional measure, a mere seven years after my graduation day, I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless. The fears my parents had had for me,